Life frequently puts us in difficult situations that challenge our patience, perseverance, and sense of fairness.
Co-parenting, in particular, necessitates a delicate balance, with both parents equally sharing duties for their child’s well-being. But what happens when one parent prioritizes their own needs, leaving the other to bear the full burden? This is a frequent battle among single parents. Recently, a reader shared her experience, explaining how she dealt with an unexpected and bold request from her ex-husband.
Dear,
Ex-husband casually asked to skip three months of child support because he needed to “save for a summer trip” with his wife and their two children. I did not argue…
When the next visitation day arrived, I did not drop off our daughter. Instead, I left some luggage at his door. As he eagerly unzipped it, his face turned white as he spotted a mound of clothes and school supplies.
He blinked and questioned, “What’s this?”
I smiled. “Oh, since you want to take a break from financially supporting our child, I thought I’d help. So, for the next 16 weeks, he will live with you.”
His wife came in the doorway, frowning. “What?”
I explained, “It is simple. Since you are taking a break from financially supporting our child, I thought it would be reasonable for me to take a break as well. You will be responsible for full-time parenting for the following 16 weeks. You know–so I can concentrate on my own savings. Don’t worry, I’ve packed enough clothes and school supplies for the first two weeks. After that, I’m confident you’ll be able to figure things out.”
He looked completely horrified and exclaimed, “Wait, hold on! We never agreed on this!”
I tilted my head, pretending innocence. “Oh? I assumed you would be okay with it. I mean, it’s only 3 months. What is the big deal?”
I took a moment to process my words before delivering the ultimate blow. “Oh, and one more thing: our daughter did not feel like visiting Daddy today. She said she would rather spend the weekend with me. So, I’ll send her off Monday morning, and you’ll have her for the entire 12 weeks. Enjoy!”
Now, my ex and his wife can’t stop calling and texting me, but I’m not answering. I’m standing my ground.
If he chose to prioritize his new family over our daughter, he must face the consequences. I did not make this decision alone; he did when he asked to opt out of his duties. Am I wrong about this?
Sincerely, Rose
